“Till death do us part” is said at every wedding ceremony. It is such a meaningful statement, but not all can carry it throughout their lives.
Being away from someone you love is never easy. Losing a loved one is the hardest thing to do. It creates a void inside you which no one can fill. The pain of living with this emptiness is unfathomable.
Couples take vows when they get married, and they live those promises for the years that follow. Their love grows deeper with every year they spend together. They stand by each other’s side through thick and thin. That’s why when one has to bid a forever goodbye to another, it’s unbearably difficult.
A man named Bobby had to say goodbye recently to his wife of 60 years. His love for his wife was pure as 24-carat gold. His everlasting love has made all his children believe in love.
On the day of bidding a final goodbye to his wife, Bobby arrived an hour earlier. Trembling, he bent down, to kiss his beloved wife for the last time.
He whispered to her,
“I know you can’t hear me, but I love you.”
Until his family members started coming in, he silently sat with her, experiencing her presence even though she was not there.
When others said their goodbyes, he still was there with her appreciating how pretty she looked. Not willing to lose even a single moment, he sat there for five full hours.
The author writes on the original Facebook post,
“This man, this devoted man, had shown more grace in his time of grief than many do in times of plenty. I stood by in awe, watching faithfulness on display. Never had I seen a man so broken, robbed of his happiness by the curse of death. I wondered as I watched him, what would he do tomorrow and the day after that? Today was the easy part.”
The time after saying goodbye was extremely painful. How do you go back to live your life, when the support-system of your life is not there with you?
“Tomorrow, after she is laid deep in the ground, and he returns to their home, what then? Her things will still be there – the smell of her skin, scribbled grocery lists, her favorite chair, leftovers in the fridge, their bed. Their bed. How does one sleep alone after 59 years of lying next to your best friend? I can’t imagine ever sleeping again. Today, I witnessed a story of love. And I shall witness it again tomorrow when the story finally ends, and the stage is empty, and the lights go dark.”
Bobby’s life will be lonelier and quieter like never before. But he will live with the memories and the abundant love that his wife has left behind.
Life is as fragile as a petal of a rose. You don’t know how long your love would last. But the fear of losing your love should not hold you back from accepting it. If you are with your dear ones right now, feel grateful for it…and give them all the love you have.
Source: Love what matters